I seem to be cursed on an unlucky streak and always ended up single on my birthday. But better being single than being in a relationship with the wrong person right?

Looking back, I'm almost relieved now that it's over. We delved into a relationship too fast, only to find things that we don't like about each other gradually. Would have scored poorly on the compatibility match.


I had always prided myself for my good judgment of character but how could I be so wrong this time? Almost couldn't believe I was willing to travel to Jakarta for a man who was so incredibly selfish and self-centered.

I should have known better coming from the same person who initiated a FIRST DATE and then made the girl pay for her share of the bill.

I honestly wanted nothing to do with him after that but the texts kept coming. Sweeter each time than before and I fell for every single one of them. Eventually.


I was head over heels in love with this man who shares the same passion as I have in business. We talked about everything and anything - there were no boundaries. We would stay up for hours on Skype despite our time difference, just like every other couple in long distance relationship. He even invested in my business start-up and we made so many big plans.
The trip was a real eye opener, though. When I got the chance to know him better, I really could not stand how calculative he was with everything. In simpler terms, he's the most CHEAPSKATE ANGMOH I've ever came across.

The final straw for me was when we were trying to get to our backpackers' hostel in Yogyakarta and we got on a frail man's bicycle ride who would take us to our destination. It was already so cheap but he was still trying to negotiate to a lower price. I mean come on, the poor man has a living to earn and mouths to feed probably. If that's not bad enough already, he even wanted us to SPLIT the pathetic cost and I was like okay fine.

The old man had a hard time getting to the location and he stopped to ask another local for directions and apparently our hostel was located much further so he wanted to charge us at an additional cost which I figured was pretty reasonable considering the distance. But Max being the cheapskate Max he is, grew into a fit of rage and stood up to leave. He also refused to pay for the current trip fee which I ended up having to pay. I was so PISSED OFF I wished I could go back to Singapore right away. He made me walk all the way to our hostel in the scorching weather instead of just forking out his share and we would have arrived comfortably.

I know I could not be with a man like that. I am the kind of person who will give someone I love my world and everything I have with absolutely no hesitations if I had the means.

The sad part was, he had the means.

Before you think I would allow myself the pleasure of putting the blame of our downfall on him with no admission of my part in it, I beg to differ. I know I had my own set of shortcomings too. I honestly could not deny the facts of my bad behaviour which he relayed to me, some of it much to my own disappointment. Mostly about how I would storm off during an argument and refuse to speak to him which he felt was childish. But can you really blame me? I was already furious and drenched in sweat and he was expecting me to talk about my feelings? Talk about perfect timing.

I AM SO GLAD IT'S OVER. He had the nerve to reach out to me after I came back to SG but it has been one hell of a relationship and I want no part in it anymore.

 Moral of the story: If he made you pay for the first date, he's not the one.